Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

Being Thankful

WOW… okay… when I wrote the first blog post for this November, I never in a million years would even fathom what would transpire just a few days later.  NEVER, in a million years could I even imagine what would happen in a matter of hours on that Thursday.  It shook me to my core.
I had a completely different blog written but changed my mind.  Here are the words that I want to share.
He will make beauty out of the ashes. Let me start there.
 It was a Thursday morning, and I had gotten a text from my mom that the hospital where they lived was evacuating because of an encroaching fire.  She went on to say that she and dad were going to start packing up some things because the sky was getting darker and darker.
 I was at work, but let me tell you, Thursday, November 8, 2018, not a lot of work got done by most of us that had family and friends in Paradise, California.  There were tears, and disbelief as we were trying to find out as much information during the frenzy about those people that we knew lived in Paradise.
 My co-workers were calling their family and friends to see if they were heading out of Paradise, and to safety.  I keep looking at my phone to see texts of where my family was. Soon, my folks were heading out of their subdivision. I didn't realize that it was just the start of a scary ordeal.
 We, in the office, were staring at our cell phones and computers to see what the news was or to hear news from our friends and family to confirm.   I got to work at 8am, and at 10:30am, my mom called me on the phone.  There was fire on both sides of the road where they were trying to get out.
 There was a desperation that I had never heard from my mom.  This terror in her voice through the tears hit me to the inner part of my heart. As her daughter, I wished I could have gotten in my car, and gone to get her as she tells of the harrowing drive down a road that was literally hell on earth.
 All I could do was say a prayer that God would protect her.  I keep saying that she was going to be alright.  Yet, all I wanted to do was reach through the phone and be with her.
 They made it down to safety, they were lucky.  We then awaited word on my aunt and uncle who also live in Paradise. They were stuck in the upper part of Paradise.  With the traffic at a standstill, they were told to abandon their cars, and hunker down on a concrete parking lot near a concrete building.
 The cell towers were either burned or so many people were using them that they were jammed, and there was a short amount of time we had not heard from them.  When we finally heard from them, they were safe.  It took a while, but they finally were able to get down the hill.
 On Friday, November 9, 2018, around 10:00pm, my folks received photo confirmation that a house that was their home for fourteen years was destroyed by the fire.  It is completely gone.  Furniture, pictures, dishes, heirlooms, and books, gone in a wind-whipped fire.
 If I close my eyes, I see Christmas morning with us around the Christmas Tree in the living room with all the windows or Thanksgiving dinner around a dining table that was my grandmother's or a cool evening out on the deck watching the sunset.  We would take family pictures in the woods behind the house. 
We would sit in the family room on winter days with the fireplace going and watching a movie, or a ball game. It was a home. My folks had made it a home for all of us. The location was at the end of the street. The quiet place that was my refuge from the crazy world.
The place is gone, but my family is still here. Those memories will always be with us, and the great this is, we get the opportunity to make new memories.   There will be laughter, tears, and prayers.  There will be joy and fun along with more heartaches. It is life.
It is because of the people in our lives that we have those moments.  The memories are not because of a piece of furniture or an article of clothing.  The memories are the people that were present during those special moments.  We will make plenty more of those.
 I hope that each of you takes an extra moment and be thankful for the people in your life.  As you go through one day, and then a next day, I hope that you realize how extremely lucky you are to have people in your life that love you, and that you love.  Family can be those people that you are blood-related to, but it can also be the people that you bring into your life.
 It isn't about the buildings, and the things, it is about the people in our lives.  Love each other.  Realize that, on this earth, we have one life.  It is the people in our lives that make us better. Live your life and Love.
 I am not talking about just the romantic love, I am talking about loving your family, and friends, and your neighbor.  This love that casts out all fear.  Love can rebuild.
On this planet, I only have one life, and I don't want to spend another moment worrying about the things I don't have or complaining about what someone did or said.  I want to spend my life, here on earth getting every moment out of it.
 Dear Jesus,
 You loved us so much that you gave us family and bring people into our lives.  I pray that we are always thankful for the people in our lives.  I pray that we are Thankful for your amazing love that taught us how to love.
 In Jesus Name Amen
Written by Laura Maxson


Photograph by Nancy Hamilton. Thank you, Nancy, for this priceless gift.


Generations in Bondage

I've heard the Bible verse "for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me." It's found both in Exodus 20 and Deuteronomy 5

I've heard this verse attributed to things that can be traced back through family line, things that plague our lives. Things like anxiety, depression, unwillingness to forgive, abuse, alcohol, drug addictions, spiritualism. The things that are usually the family secrets, dark and hidden, that no one really talks about, but in certain circle are said in whispered tones. 

A few years ago, I found freedom from the chains of anxiety and control. Anxiety and control, that I discovered came from the need to be perfect and feeling as if I was never quiet enough. Perfection was never attainable, because there was always something I could have done better. I needed to always do more, to show I was good enough, gain approval, to be perfect. But, through the help of others and the working  of the Holy Spirit, I found freedom in the realization, I was right. Perfection for me is never attainable. There is nothing I can do to attain perfection, nor should it be my goal. 

No, perfection can only be achieved by someone else.  Perfection can only be found in Christ alone, "the Author and Perfecter of our faith"(Hebrews 12:2 ESV). That it is through Christ, I become complete and perfect in Him. "Being confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Jesus Christ" Philippians 1:6 ASV

What I've also come to discover, I was not alone in this struggle. This is a struggle that ran deep and holds strong through our family. I found these issues can trace back into the 3rd generation of our family and who knows how much further. 

But, praise be to God, 

Through the working of the Holy Spirit, our family is starting to openly talk about it with each other. We've also asked those close to us to pray for us as well. Because of this, we are realizing that it can stop with us! With God's help it will stop with us! 

When I was going through counseling, I shared with my counselor how hard it was to choose a different path then the one my mind took me down, the path of anxiety. But, I had moments when I felt free from it, and I was afraid that it might come back. He said to me, "These changes you are making are like changing the course of a river. It will take time. It will be hard. But, then you'll realize you're going the other direction." He continued, "It's not a matter of 'if' it (my anxiety) will come back, but 'when.' And now that you've tasted freedom, you won't want to stay there. And you know how to get back."

The reason I'm sharing this with you, is so God may have all the glory when He frees my family from these chains. And, for you to know that you are not alone-God wants to do this for you too.

Everyone has things in their lives, in their family's lives, that run deep and go back far, things that have enslaved us. I pray that once you've realize whatever these things may be-that you try God. Pray that He lead you "in the way you should go" (Psalm 32:8), and that He reveal people in your life that can help in the healing process. 

What's even more incredible to me are the words that follow in this verse. 

"for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments." Exodus 20:5-6

These words were original written for the children of Israel. They had just been freed from the bondage of slavery in Egypt. For generations they had been enslaved. Now that He had freed them, He wanted to make sure they didn't put anything else in His place, make something else their master. But, keep Him as their God. So, He gave them instructions on how to live fully free. Some of these instructions came with a warning of who their actions could affect if they choose otherwise. But, also with that warning, came a beautiful promise of freedom and love, that can be found in Him, which will continue down through family lines for a thousand generations.

That same promise He has for us. He can free us from chains that have shackled our families for generations. When we make God the only God in our life, put Him back in His rightful place, we allow Him to free us from the bondage of slavery. 
And God spoke all these words: 
I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of Egypt, out of the land of slavery. 
You shall have no other gods before me. 
You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments. 
Exodus 20:1-6 & Deuteronomy 5:5-10 (NIV)
Photo by Jake Givens on Unsplash
~ kartini r. maxson